Self-Care Tips for Breastfeeding and Pumping Parents (Even When You’re Exhausted
Although life with kids is exhausting (we see you in that school drop-off line), if you’re breastfeeding, pumping, supplementing with formula, or feeding a newborn in any way, taking care of yourself is essential. Your energy, hydration, and mental health directly affect how sustainable feeding feels day to day.
No matter what season of parenting you’re in, self-care during the newborn and infant stage matters. Here are realistic, doable self-care tips for breastfeeding and pumping parents — even when you feel last on the list.
Prepare Before Busy Days
Planning ahead reduces stress and decision fatigue — especially during early morning feeds and pump sessions.
Prep the night before:
- Set up pump stations near your bed or couch
- Pre-fill water bottles
- Portion easy snacks
- Wash and stage bottles and pump parts
- Leave your feeding bag by the door
Board certified lactation consultant Abrie McCoy says preparation is one of the biggest sanity savers:
“I always tell my patients if you’re able, have multiples of your favorites. In your purse, in your favorite tote, by the couch. Not having to hunt down a pump part at 5am is essential to your sanity.”
Pro tip: Keep a feeding caddy stocked with snacks, lip balm, chargers, burp cloths, and nipple cream.
Hydrate Consistently
Hydration is one of the most overlooked postpartum self-care basics — especially for breastfeeding and pumping parents.
Try:
- Drinking during every feed or pump
- Keeping water at every feeding station
- Adding electrolytes for variety
- Using phone reminders if needed
Small hydration habits can improve energy and comfort.
Eat for Energy, Not Perfection
Postpartum nutrition should be easy and accessible. Focus on quick fuel instead of ideal meals.
Simple options:
- Protein bars
- Trail mix
- Yogurt
- Cheese sticks
- Smoothies
- Overnight oats
- Pre-cut fruit
Eating something is always better than waiting too long.
Build Micro-Rest Into Your Day
Full naps may not happen — but short rest breaks still help recovery.
Try:
- 10 minutes eyes-closed after a feed
- One daily lie-down
- Seated breaks instead of standing tasks
- A no-task window each day
Rest supports milk production, mood, and healing.
Make Your Feeding Space Comfortable
You spend hours feeding or pumping — comfort matters.
Upgrade your space with:
- Supportive pillows
- Warm lighting
- A cozy blanket
- Calming audio
- Hand cream and nipple balm
- A phone charger within reach
Small comforts reduce physical and mental strain.
Protect Your Neck, Shoulders, and Wrists
Feeding posture can cause real body strain.
Daily reset:
- Bring baby to you, not you to baby
- Use pillows for height
- Switch positions
- Stretch chest and shoulders
- Shake out wrists after pumping
Your body is doing repetitive work — treat it accordingly.
Move Gently
Light movement improves mood and reduces stiffness from feeding positions. A short walk, gentle stretching, or mobility exercises are enough.
Consistency matters more than intensity.
Take Mental Breaks From Feeding Thoughts
Baby feeding can feel all-consuming. Add moments of mental separation:
- Watch a comfort show while feeding
- Listen to a podcast
- Text a friend
- Read something unrelated to parenting
Mental rest is real self-care.
Lower the Bar on Everything Else
Self-care sometimes looks like:
- Paper plates
- Grocery delivery
- Repeated outfits
- Simpler routines
- Unfinished to-do lists
Energy protection is productive.
Lean on Your Village
Let your partner change diapers. Accept meal help. Say yes to babysitting offers.
Abrie McCoy reminds parents:
“Baby feeding is not meant to be done in a vacuum. Reach out when you need help.”
Support is part of successful feeding journeys.
Ask for Feeding Support Early
If breastfeeding or pumping feels painful, stressful, or confusing — getting help sooner is a form of self-care. Lactation consultants and feeding specialists exist to make feeding easier, not harder.
Practice Self-Compassion
The best thing for your baby is you — supported, nourished, and cared for.
No matter how you’re feeding, giving yourself grace is powerful self-care. Progress counts. Showing up counts.
And yes — setting the coffee timer helps too.
